Don’t Judge

Hey guys! At last I have managed to find the time to breathe and write to you guys out there. I won’t say I don’t judge people. I do. Judging is like that annoying buzzing fly that doesn’t go away. Oh but it does. Eventually. I judge, but the very next instant I chide myself. I think to myself that what if there is something more to it? You should never jump to conclusions based on what you see. Every person has a story. All you need to do sometimes is get to know that story and your whole thinking changes. A person speaking in broken language may be laughed at. But if you listen closely you may realize that you are actually listening to a wise person.

A person incapable of forming speech but infinitely smarter than you. If you listen you may actually learn a few things.

I came up with this because it has been nagging me since past few days. I was talking to my friend when she showed me a photo of a popular couple. The fault in my friend’s eye was that the woman was dark and the man was fair. She laughed and showed me the picture saying “Are they trying to play chess?” It annoyed me to no end. I asked her if the guy was dark and the woman fair would she have said the same thing?She didn’t reply. No they aren’t trying to play chess. Maybe they like each other? Before you try fixing someone, acting as if this world is your board and you are holding the chalk and duster so that it makes it morally right for you to throw about your unwanted opinion, look at yourself .You also have a lot to change so maybe try using that chalk and duster on yourself instead of others.

I took up this topic with another friend of mine. She did support the fact that one shouldn’t judge. It made me happy thinking that not all are that narrow minded. Till it slipped from her mouth that ” I don’t mind her being dark it’s just that she is fat.She should do something about it” Oopsie. I was wrong . I realized then that my friend supported my “being dark should not matter” line because she is dark herself. This same friend was overweight three years back but she lost oodles of weight and is stick thin now . I thought that her suffering from weight issues for a year would stop her from passing such a judgement. Then I realized that she never worked for it. She just doesn’t like the taste of the food here so she eats less and throws more into the trash bin. She lost weight within months. I explained it to her that the woman may have tried loosing weight and she may have a disorder that her from loosing much weight. She looked away before waving her hand and rolling her saying  “maybe”. She may have realized her mistake but not how wrong she was.

So stop judging. You may actually depress someone without the intent to and cause  a lot of harm.Before you judge think whether you like it when people judge you. You don’t right? And those people out there who get judged regularly. Keep trying to improve yourself but don’t take what others say to your heart because you know what you are going through. But that doesn’t mean that you can make excuses. Keep working you will get the results you want or rather need 🙂

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Aim for respect

Respect is important but it should be based on goodness not fear

Respect is important but it should be based on goodness not fear

Hey guys! I am back with a little dose of positivity 🙂 There are four kinds of people in the world. The extrovert, introvert, wannabe extrovert and those who keep shifting from extro to intro(and vice versa) from time to time. Correct me if I am wrong please. I would love to talk to you guys about this.

All of them have one thing in common-to find a niche to fit into

Imagine a room filled with different walls. Each wall belonging to different groups of people and each wall filled with little niches for people to fit into and build a comfort zone.  We all like to be complimented, well most of us anyways. Some want a compliment on their body and some for their mind and work. I started thinking about which kind of compliment is the right kind? I may be overthinking of course. If one is complimented one should be happy right? Not me. Some kinds of compliments satisfy me and some don’t and then

It dawned on me that what I want is respect

Respect that makes me hold my head up high and not my nose. I want people to respect me for what I do. If I help a homeless person-respect. If I beat up a person for molesting someone-respect. If I have immense knowledge and share it-respect. I don’t want people to tell me I look hot and neither do I want people to look down on me and think I am of no “use”. But, respect doesn’t come easy. You need to work to earn respect and maybe because of that it is not easily found because many people are busy complaining rather than working for it.

I had a point in my life where I was the first person on the “take on team” list and a point where I was the last. I found things easy before. If you have read any of my previous posts, you will know that after one very depressing point in my life I gave up on things. That’s when people started thinking that I am incapable of things. I still live in that same place amongst the same people and have to bear the brunt, but now I am gaining back my place because I decided to take things in my hands and gain respect. It is a long way but now I know that I don’t need a light at the end of the tunnel. Things are clear now.

I was and am the bright light I just took my time realizing it

You are the bright light in your life too. And that angel that is guiding you? was attracted to the light that is you. 🙂 What do you think? Tell me about your thoughts 🙂

The book of the week: Little Women by Louisa May Alcott