Things to Unlearn

Hey guys! I know I haven’t posted in a long time. I love to share things with you beloved people. I don’t have any inspiration so far,but, I did come by this article online- it is about unlearning 4 things that has been programmed into most of us since childhood. I could totally relate to it. I will think a little more on this article and add my views to it in a while. If you guys have anything to say please don’t hesitate 🙂

The link to it is here. Go ahead. Click the ‘here’ word.

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New Year

A very Happy New Year people! May all of you have a prosperous year ahead. May you find your self and get to know so many new amazing things. May you cross off more points from your bucket list. May each day see you better than the day before and may you have memorable experiences that you cherish and even learn from.

Counted Breaths

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I recently got into a debate with a senior of mine, about mind. It opened my mind to a different perspective. I, for the first time ever, had a glimpse of how people can relate everything to philosophy and religion and come up with different explanations about any and everything- even big bang theory.

In this same debate, I was introduced to the concept of counted breaths. According to my senor, we all come into this life with a certain number of breaths allocated to us. When the breaths are up, we all pass away.

This got me thinking and I decided to share my views with all of you :).

I believe that this concept can be looked at differently. When we get stressed, there is an adrenaline rush that makes our heart pump faster. A constant state of stress leads to short and fast breaths which some people may also refer to as breathlessness. This can cause a lot of damage to our body and mind in the long run. So in a way , counted breaths theory warns us to take slow and long breaths, to relax so that we can lead a longer and healthier life.

You should invest some of your time in meditation because it has amazing returns and long time benefits. One way to do this can be :

  1. In the first stage you use counting to stay focused on the breath. After the out-breath you count one, then you breathe in and out and count two, and so on up to ten, and then you start again at one.
  2. In the second stage you subtly shift where you breathe, counting before the in-breath, anticipating the breath that is coming, but still counting from one to ten, and then starting again at one.
  3. In the third stage you drop the counting and just watch the breath as it comes in and goes out.
  4. In the final stage the focus of concentration narrows and sharpens, so you pay attention to the subtle sensation on the tip of the nose where the breath first enters and last leaves the body.

I don’t know how true the theory of counted breaths is but I can surely say that long and slow breaths can help us heal 🙂

Meditation steps copied from: https://thebuddhistcentre.com/text/mindfulness-breathing

A Little Tortoise Shell

Blistering Burnacles! Being in a state of doubt is such a bad thing! Phew! Does that take a toll on you. I find myself loosing weight and isolating myself when I go through this phase. The reason of doubt may not even be rational or even related to you. We sit biting our nails and pondering upon the yays and nays of people around us.

I find myself standing at crossroads with tons of people walking past me and I am not just worried about myself at this point. I bring in other people’s worries and make a nice juicy mess of my life. I made such a dear friend and started on a new life. I was so happy and yet in some part of my head I believed that this friendship will not last long. Guess what? Yes. That day came sooner than expected and it hit me like a ice cold bucket of water making it hard to breathe. But I know how to struggle. I kept trying to ask him the reason but he slipped away like sand. I tried moving on but his thoughts still make me sad. I realized that in that short while he had become more than a friend. I liked him. I still like him. I am in a relationship, I love my boy friend but this small part of me that still likes my friend, does not help me. I feel like I am cheating but I can’t even confess to anyone because like dominoes everything will crumble down. I know all this will pass away and I have tried moving on. It is hard but not impossible. I made a mistake but I don’t regret it.

Though I do wish that people would not take small matters to their heart. I wish that little things don’t eat away the good things that we can build. I have made other friends but I cannot not gel as well as I could with him. But it is annoying that small things like me being busy and giving them 10 minutes less of my time hurts them to such an extent that they behave childishly. To be practical is something that we need to learn. Following our heart is important but that should not cloud our own judgement.

But it may just be me. My internal struggle has forced me to hide inside my shell like a turtle and I have started keeping my conversations with people to the bare minimum. I can hear the din outside this shell. It scares me.

But when I close my eyes everything is clear as day. I know what to do. I know I am not somebody who is defined by where I am from or what others think of me. I am who I choose to be. I don’t chose to sit back and let things go the way they are going now. I am going to come out and face this with my head held high because I know I can.

Listen to : Fuckin’ Perfect by Pink

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Everything New

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Life. It is nothing like a wheel. It is more like a bicycle. It takes you to different places- some known and some not. The best part about life being a bicycle is that we can go anywhere at our own speed and all of what happens to us depends on our decisions. I have moved out of my house. It is a brand new place and a brand new world for me. I have met new people visited new places and gone through new experiences.

I look forward to the days that will come with freshness of dew and what I do with them depends only on me.

Some days here have been good and some really bad. I have already gone through experiences that I never thought I would go through ever in my life. These experiences help me grow. Some times I manage to change the bad to good by my positive attitude and sometimes I have made stupid mistakes that lead to huge disasters. But that is life right? A fog of confusion may always wait for you but remember there is always the sun that will clear it away. Walking on a dark beautiful starry night maybe lonely but remember that the little shots of brightness are cheering you on to inner peace. So breathe in and take the next turn,you may find a bright beautiful day waiting for your bright smile 🙂

Listen to: The nights by Avicii 🙂

KILL YOUR FALSE SELF (PART 3 OF 3) 33 LESSONS FOR MY CHILDREN WHEN I AM GONE

In my last post I had mentioned how I was struggling with the negativity. Well I still am. It may have grown worse infact. The negativity has engulfed me to such an extent that it has changed my character. I have bursts of anger and say things that hurt people and I don’t even mean it. I am continuously angry. My reason for the anger will continue to exist for many more years to come. An outsider has come into my house and is poisoning the family. After she has come I have seen a rift in my family. Continuous fights and health problems because of worrying over one single person. I can’t do anything about it because even though I tried to stand up to her my family went against me because ” You are not supposed to say anything to guests” I really have nothing else to do but stay silent and be better off being by myself. Maybe that will help me. But do read this post that I have reblogged. What is happening with me and my family is nothing compared to what has happened to him. It gives me inspiration to see someone trying to fight back. I still haven’t figured out how to glue my family back together and remove the source of problem but I will fight back.

Dealing with stress

For past some time I have been completely stressed out. There is so much to deal with. Family,work is just a part of it. I grew tired of worrying non-stop. On top of that I have shifted and the pain of leaving old friends and the fear of making new is somewhere in the back of my mind constantly.

Till I reached a point where I couldn’t take it anymore. My brain fried and I stopped thinking.

No, it is not a bad thing. In fact, I feel happy. Now I have learnt to think only about the present. I have regained my carefree attitude to a certain extent. I have stopped worrying about what’s going to happen. I am learning how to only logically analyse the problem right in front of me and deal with it. I won’t say I am stress free. But I am learning to deal with it. I am trying not to be impulsive. It is difficult but I am trying. Of course there are something’s which are not in my hands and I can’t stop thinking about. But I am learning to deal with those to. I am going to put a stop to ” pulling my hair worry”.

Plus I recently came across this video in TED where they explained about how accepting stress as a learning mechanism helps us increase our longevity. Dealing with stress in a positive way is very important. We need to learn from it and not fall under it’s brunt. If I can try to do it then so can you.